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"Other People Have It Worse"
Vicky Huangfu Vicky Huangfu

"Other People Have It Worse"

It's a phrase many of us use to dismiss our own struggles, believing we're gaining perspective when we're actually denying ourselves compassion. In this blog, Dr. Vicky Huangfu explores why minimizing your pain is a learned defense, how it disconnects us from healing, and why acknowledging your experience is not self-pity—it's self-honesty.

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When “Good Girl” Becomes a Cage: The Cost of Staying Small
Vicky Huangfu Vicky Huangfu

When “Good Girl” Becomes a Cage: The Cost of Staying Small

Explore how “good girl” conditioning leads women to stay small, disconnected, and overwhelmed—despite doing everything right. Learn the emotional and physical costs of people-pleasing, why midlife often triggers a quiet rebellion, and how EMDR therapy helps you reclaim authenticity, boundaries, and a deeper sense of safety within yourself.

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Learning to Feel Safe in Your Own Body Again
Vicky Huangfu Vicky Huangfu

Learning to Feel Safe in Your Own Body Again

Discover how trauma disconnects women from their bodies—and how safety, trust, and reconnection can be rebuilt through gentle therapeutic approaches like EMDR. Learn why numbness, hypervigilance, and emotional detachment are survival responses, and how healing helps you reclaim ease, grounding, and a sense of home within yourself.

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